ELDERWISDOM—LISTENING TO THE MATURE

Let's suppose that we, those over 60, have committed ourselves to promoting the younger set into leadership. Where does that leave us? Surely not "out to pasture." And yet, isn't that often the way the older generation feels? Once so heavily involved—in the midst of any and all decision-making—but now on the sidelines.

Feelings of frustration and fear frequently accompany a move to the sidelines. The starting quarterback rebels against the pine of the bench. A smart second-stringer will ask the starter how best to handle the opposition. Before long the wise starter, recognizing his need for rest or gaining control of his "game," willingly provides the insights so desperately needed by the young replacement. What a great picture of leadership, both in the community and in the church.

Our communities need young leadership; leadership that is in tune with the workings of the postmodern world; leadership that has energy, fresh creativity and eagerness to work hard. However, this youth movement must be tempered by "elderwisdom" provided by mature individuals who have spent many years in leadership. To combine the energy of youth with the wisdom of age—what a powerful combination. How might this work?

The formal committees, boards and commissions need to be run by the younger set. These positions would be filled by women and men who are energetic, with a vision for the future. Generally, the work would carry on in routine fashion. But, informally, the wisdom of the elders would be a vital part of the process. Many communities and/or churches have "senior" groups. Why not have the leadership spend time listening when the seniors meet—at breakfast, at coffee? Or, why not have elected officials spend some one-on-one time with a number of seniors to gain insight into the thinking of this important group?

If the seniors were given the opportunity to see the agenda for a leadership meeting, and given time to discuss, I would suggest that many of the re-invented wheels would be left behind. This "elderwisdom" could provide insights for the leaders to take into the formal meetings as part of the discussion and decision-making time. Listening to the seniors, those who have experienced much in life, and who have had the opportunity to provide leadership in the past, would bring a rich wisdom to the creativity and energy of the younger set. Working together to build a community—what a tremendous opportunity; what a challenge, but what a creative relationship.